Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Don't take your love away from me
Don't you leave my heart in misery
If you go then I'll be blue
Cause breaking up is hard to do
- Neil Sedaka

The song by Neil Sedaka was first recorded in 1962 and hit number one on the Billboard Hot 100. Sedaka recorded it again in 1975. Without a doubt it was one of his signature songs.

Breaking up. Broken hearts. Lost love. The song encapsulates it all. And it’s time to explore the issue now. But not in the way you may think.

A survey by ADP Canada revealed that two-thirds of employed Canadians, or 65 percent, are “ready to walk or leave their office doors.” They are described as “the uninspired,” “the casual daters,” and “the dissed.” While the survey was exclusive to Canadian, the implication is clear - many are ready to break up.

Circumstances will vary from one organization to the next, but the reasons for wanting to call it quits will be similar. While the reasons for a break up might be numerous, let’s explore three of them now.

Lack of loyalty/trust

Loyalty and trust go hand in hand and when one suffers it has an impact on the other. People within your organization need to know that you have their back and that you trust them.

As pointed out in the aforementioned article, company loyalty has been in decline since the 1980’s. How can any organization successfully move forward with a steady loss of loyalty and trust? As a leader you must shore up the loyalty trust issue. Without it your future is in jeopardy.

Poor communication

Communication is the life-blood of your organization. When done right your people will respond. Your people not only want to be informed of decisions that affect their performance but need to be included in it. If your leadership style is to lead by decrees then this might explain why you have loyalty/trust issues.

Be proactive in establishing clear lines of communication and be inclusive with your team. They will appreciate the inclusion and it will strengthen morale.

Lack of vision or purpose

The buy-in to one’s work is linked to a clearly defined vision and purpose. People deserve to know the vision in terms of where the organization is headed and the significance of their role in seeing it to completion.

If your people are in the dark as to the vision and mission of the organization, or if the organization is adrift internally, then one’s purpose will be a casualty. A smart leader will keep the vision, mission and purpose clear and before the team at all times.

While breaking up might be hard to do, it becomes much easier for your people if there is no loyalty or trust, when communication is ineffective, and when there is no vision or purpose found in being there.

It’s time to evaluate the strength of your organization and reinforce what matters most. Building the type of organization your people would never dream of leaving begins by being the type of leader everyone wants to follow.

© 2016 Doug Dickerson

Doug Dickerson is an internationally recognized leadership speaker, columnist, and author. A Lowcountry resident, Doug is available for workshops for your organization. Learn more at or email him at

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