Your vibe attracts your tribe

In one of Shakespeare’s most famous monologues, the “St. Crispin’s Day” speech from Henry V, King Henry inspires his soldiers in the face of grim odds with a rousing speech about how the men who fight this battle with him will be forever united as a “band of brothers.”
This is a king speaking to peasants, and yet he’s saying that what they are about to go through will unite them all as brothers. 
 
We don’t always get to choose the battles life throws our way, but we do choose our response. And just as important, we choose the tribe we run with. 
 
While you may not always have control over the people who surround you in your organization, you do choose your inner circle in life that has a way of completing you. These are the people that walk with you through the good and bad and are there when the dust settles and the smoke clears.
 
Finding friends and acquaintances is not hard work for the most part, but your tribe is a different breed of people that you discover along the way. Who are they? What are their characteristics? 
 
Your tribe sees the best in you and keeps you humble; they see the worst in you and still love you
 
This characteristic of people in your tribe is so important. And quite frankly, you wouldn’t have much of a tribe without them.
 
They will be quick to celebrate your accomplishments and wins. And when you feel like you’re invincible they will keep you grounded by not being overly impressed by you. When they see you at your worst they will have your back, speak the truth you need to hear, and will walk patiently with you. 
 
In your tribe, you need loyalty.
 
With your tribe, you share common values
 
While it’s common to have many friends and acquaintances, not all of them will share your values and priorities. It’s not a deal-breaker in terms of friendship, but in your tribe you need those who share and understand the values that drive you and the priorities that guide
you. 
 
When the bond among your tribe is driven by shared values it provides the clarity that you need. When your people understand the significance of your priorities it keeps everyone focused and accountable. It’s why knowing who belongs in your tribe, and those who don’t, is so important. While many may be impressed with what you’re doing and where you’re going, not all are willing to make the sacrifices and pay the same price as you to go there.
 
In your tribe, you need purpose.
 
With your tribe, you travel higher and farther
 
With a shared mindset and values, your growth potential is multiplied. It’s why each person must find their tribe. You can only travel so far by yourself but can travel higher and farther when part of a tribe of like-minded people. 
In your tribe, you need clarity.
 
With your tribe, you have greater balance and perspective
 
As you settle in with your tribe of like-minded people, you begin to develop a certain vibe and develop an understanding that is the product of being in a genuine relationship. Over time, you begin to know one another better, and before too long a comradery forms that Shakespeare wrote about.
 
One of the great benefits of finding your tribe is that those people bring balance and perspective to your life that you may not have with anyone else. Having a close tribe is a game-changer and one that every leader should seek.
 
In your tribe you need community.
 
Final Thoughts
 
Having a tribe of like-minded people is one of the most consequential things you can have as a leader. But you must be intentional in finding them. When it’s built on loyalty, purpose, clarity, and community you will be part of a powerful group. 
 
©2022 Doug Dickerson
Doug Dickerson is a certified leadership speaker, trainer, and coach. Learn more at
dougdickerson.net/.
 

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